I was recently conversing with a blogger via email and in his opinion, he thought that tall girls were self centered in making the decision to wear heels.
He stated "tall girls that wear heels are only thinking about their own comfort and not those around them".
Well! It is a different way to look at tall girls wearing heels BUT I am not sure if I agree.
Am I allowed to say that? :-/
I guess in our making the decision to wear heels it could make others be uncomfortable but should we be living our lives to make those comfortable around us or to remain comfortable in our own skin?
I would like some insight on this from others.
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That isn't true! It takes a lot of guts for a tall girl to wear heels! (I recently just wore my first pair ^_^)Because we are always self conscious, it takes a lot of courage to get in some heels and not think about what any other people might say. It's not that we don't want others around us to feel comfortable, it's just that we want to look cute too! We don't have that right just because we were born tall? I think we do!
Heels are just another piece of clothing that accentuates what's already there. Heels make any girl look good! Especially those of us with naturally long legs.
I'm sorry to say, but he was probably one of those self conscious shorter men who always have something to say about tall women. I run into those a lot. But I understand that it's probably an inferiority complex so I don't mind ^_^.
Dear K.T. (and any other tall woman reading this!): that blogger was simply proving his *own* egocentricity by demanding that you (or any other tall woman) not wear heels because it makes *him* feel uncomfortable! His insecurity with his own height shines through clearly, imho. His opinions (as with any opinions of that nature, which serve merely to attempt to subjugate, alienate, and humiliate) are irrelevant. Life is freakin' short. You need to do what makes you happy - and if wearing heels is part and parcel of that, you go, girl! :D
~E
girls should be allowed to wear WHATEVER they wish. The shorter ones are just jealous. if u feel comfortable in heels. do it !!!!!
tall girls in heels rule !!!
i see too many tall girls in un flattering footwear.
if youve got it go for it.
With this theory of thinking maybe we should all then wear fat suits so people don't feel self conscious about their weight, or maybe we should add putty to our face to help those that feel ugly.
Turns out your own self image has nothing to do with others, it only has to do with you. If a woman wants to and feels sexy wearing heels. Then by all means she should do it.
Did he say why they weren't thinking about others comfort? I can't imagine how a tall girl in heels could affect the comfort of others. Unless, I guess, if I saw a really tall girl in heels that made her look even taller, I would get “uncomfortable” in terms of increased heart rate and being generally attracted to her and faced with the problem of “how do I get this girls attention etc.” I would be literally driven to distraction , but I call that a good kind of discomfort if you could call it that.
The person who made that comment just had a problem. A woman shouldn't wear heels if she's tall so that other people will be comfortable? Absolute nonsense! If people are confident in themselves, it shouldn't matter to them that someone is a foot taller than them instead of 8 or 9 inches.
I actually think that heels are sexier on tall women as it is more rare to see, so is a sign of confidence. It is certainly a lot sexier than hiding height by 'making yourself small'!
Wear what you want to wear!
That is so silly!
First off heels are not comfortable! As a 5'10" girl, I am not sure why me wearing heels would make people uncomfortable. If anything, I am the one who should feel awkward about being the giant in the room!
Second, I think it is sexy as hell when a tall girl rocks high heels! It takes some extreme self confidence and lets face it, when you have like 3 and a half feet of legs, who doesn't want to see that accentuated by an awesome pair of stilettos!
I'm sorry, but I don't see how me being this giant should make anyone but me uncomfortable. I was always one of the tallest people in a room and it has taken a long time for me to accept that fact. I will not go back to slouching in flats because someone else is too insecure about themselves to be around a 6+ girl.
No woman should be afraid to wear heels is she wants. Just because a man might not be able to stand quite as tall her even when a tall woman is flat footed. This doesn't mean a woman is self centered. It just means she is proud of her height and doesn't care what the little men think.
What possible harm could ever come from a tall woman wearing heels? Other than to make some moron feel short or mess with his machismo. I hope it makes men like that feel like crap, it serves them right for thinking sexist garbage in the first place. I LOVE to see tall women the bigger and taller the better and if heels make them so tall that I’m eye level with their belt buckle GOOD! All the better!
I completely agree with you / disagree with your blogger friend.
Tall girls wear heels because regardless of your height - some women love the style and fashion of heeled shoes! I think tall women look amazing in heels - it shows they are confident and proud and not shamed into hunching their shoulders and wearing only flats because others feel intimidated by a strong tall women. Wear those heels ladies. Wear them proud!
Find fabulous heels (and many other styles) at www.BarefootTess.com - an online shoe store specializing in larger sizes... perfect for tall girls!
hi, I am 16 and am 5"11. i agree with you that the guy that said 'tall girls in heels are self centred' is far from right! since i got into secondary school and people began pointing out my height i became very self-consious.. i slouched and to be shorter and have been left with an appauling posture (which i'm now sorting out :)
until a few weeks ago i thought i would never wear heels at risk of looking like a twig (i'm also very skinny :S) but for year 11 prom i decided i'd just go for it because i wasnt going to let my height ruin a good night...
when i first got there i felt really uncomfortable and kept taking them off so i was smaller... but later on i saw some photos of me in my heels and realised i looked lovley! i think tall girls in heels are brave because of the stares, comments and insults they may recieve. in all fairness, tall girls are humans too and if they want to wear heels then why not?
i also think/know that alot of tall girls are very uncomfortable about their height and wearing heels does not make them self centred, it just shows that they are happy in their own body and do not feel the need to be like everyone else - because they are not!
btw, i love this blog! something i find very useful and reassuring :) xx
When you are tall, it was meant for you to be seen. It is not as if you can hide, so why avoid wearing heels for the benefit of people who are going to gawk and stare regardless. Throw care to the wind and step proudly!
Be comfortable in your own skin, don't give a crap what anybody thinks. Me being a man, confidence would be a huge turn on for me in a woman... Besides, heels are hot anyway you look at it. For some odd reason, a lot of girls that are around my height or shorter wouldn't give me the time of day but the taller ones want me to stay and talk to them even if I so much as approach them.
I think whoever said that taller women shouldn't wear heels is self-centered lol. I think that If they make a girl feel more beautiful than why not? A girl shouldn't have to sacrifice that just cause she's tall. Up and away ladies.
Tall women are very beautiful , the taller the better . If a person doesn't like some one to wear high heels they should get in touch with why it causes them to feel so upset when someone expresses them selves in a positive way . I think this man is very selfish , he should just stop to think how painful it has been for some women being taller than every one a round them, people staring and making remarks. I some cases this woman my have finally gotten enough courage to put on some heals or make
her self look pretty knowing she is going stand out ever more , and then some insecure little man comes along and starts
crying like a little baby . We weren't put on this earth for the approval of others , our biggest battle will always be keeping
one step ahead of that little voice that wants to tell us that were not enough and keep remembering that we are enough .
Always go where the love is there always someone that loves you .
Sincerely , Michael
Well as a tall girl myself (between 5'11 and 6') I think that's a stupid comment to make. Is it self-centered for them not to wear stilts? While we should care about the opinion of others to a degree, it should not be to the detriment of our joy of being who we are.
V.
In response to the guy that stated "tall girls that wear heels are only thinking about their own comfort and not those around them".
May I suggest that this may be the comment of a small man (both stature and nature)... if a lady feels like wearing heels then what business is it of anyone else?
My 6 foot tall girlfriend wears heels and i think its great that we can be almost the same height (when she is in 4 inch heels)
Wear those heels if you like them, and dont let anyone tell you how to dress.
Cheers
Z
HEY! I'm 6' 2" and 16- one day I wore my 5" heels to school as a part of a competition at our school. But the day I strutted down the halls roughly about 6' 7" was the most fun I've had in school for a LONG time. It was great to see all the little short people scurry out of my way and look up with fear :)
Tall girls should be able to wear heels if they want! We are not self-centered because of this, we just want in on the same fashions as short girls! I enjoy wearing heels but still- they make some situations awkward so I don't wear them as often as I want. But I don't understand why someone would chastise tall girls just because we are confident enough to be even taller!
Hi KT
I totally agree with you, no way should we dress (clothes or Heels) to make other people feel comfortable.
All that matters is how I feel as a person and if i want to wear a really short skirt with very high heels that is because if I am going to go out and be noticed by everyone (and lets face it we TALL GIRLS do attract attention) then I want to think that I look my best "the wow factor".
If "short arses" don't like what they see (personally I think they are just jelous)I don't give a monkeys I am happy and I look after No.1.
My Husband absolutely loves me wearing high heels even if it does make me taller than him because he says I look great and he is proud when other people look and they like what they see.
P.S. I am 6'0" tall with 36" inside leg (they go all the way upto my bum!!!) my Husband says he is 6'2" but I think he has shrunk with age tee hee (never mind I still Love him) ;-)
POWER TO THE TALL GIRL!!!
That guy sounds quite controlling! Its our business if we wear heels & no one elses! I'm a "borderline" tall (5'11") & I love suddenly being 6'3" or so! Its fun! I think that guy is mmaybe insecure.
I buy shoes that I like. Some styles have heels and others don't. I don't consider other people when I buy my shoes -- why should I?! My sister that are shorter than my 6'2" height don't consider the height of the heel so why should I? If the shoe is cute and comfortable then I have the right to buy it no matter what the height of the heel. I don't think this is self-centered, it is me living my life!
By that reasoning, short people in flats , sandals, etc, anything WITHOUT a tall heel, are also offensive.
Heck, barefoot short people would even be so!
This guy just can't deal with tall women in general, he's probably so intimidated that it's played on his mind to the point he's come up with whiny complaints about it,
it's really pretty transparent where he's really coming from though.
I thought the same things some of you are saying. This guy was shifting his negative energy onto the tall girl. Once he gets himself together he may think differently. Right now, he is so caught up with his other then her height and attitude.
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