Ok ladies
I was chatting with some pals online and the topic of tall women dating shorter men came up.
I am one that dates a man of any height; however, the guys that were a part of the discussion said that tall women won't even look their way.
Specifically, my pal Paul said "tall women are stuck up and limit their opportunities to have fun because of their height criterias placed on men".
What are your thoughts tall girls?
Does Paul know what he is talking about or is he just a bitter man??
Share your stories, ladies.
31 comments:
I don't care about a guy's height as long as he isn't more than a head taller or shorter. Then it gets hard to talk when you walk:-) Most of the guys I've gone with are shorter, because most guys are less than my height and I look for other things. For me they have to be in good enough shape to run with me and they have to be smart. I like science types.
Some women have fantasies of what guys should be like and want a taller guy no matter what. Others don't care. I do find there are guys who keep coming up to me even though I'm uninterested in them for other reasons. I'm pretty sure there are guys who must only like tall women. That is incredibly annoying.
I don't know too many tall women, but guess that most want a guy pretty close to their height or taller. People who put a great value on height or anything else that might be rare are limiting their choice and may end up lonely or with someone who isn't a great match.
Taller ladies are people who, just like everyone else, have feelings which must be respected. I personally would have no objection to having a partner taller than myself, however much taller she may be. By the way, I'm 5'7" (170cm) tall.
nolander_e (5-foot-7, like myself) makes some good points. You have to like a tall woman for qualities other than mere stature -- her intelligence, sense of humor, warmth of personality, and so on. Perhaps the criteria should be: if this woman was not tall, if she came in a 5-foot-2 package instead of 6-foot-2, would she still draw your interest?
I´m a 5´8 muscular man and I love tall woman! many of the greatest girls I have ever dating were tall, they generally have a kind personality plus I love long legs too! I like girls of any height of course but I find in a woman being tall a plus.
In my experience many tall girls don´t mind dating shorter guys but not all and its is a shame :(
I agree Spike.
Every tall girl should have at least one date with a shorter guy. This way, she can confirm if she really like men of all heights or just a man of a certain height.
I have a long time friend that only dates men that are taller than her but she has had experience with dating shorter men.
She made her decision to date taller men based on her experience dating shorter men.
I personally do not have a height preference BUT I have noticed that men that are 5'8 or taller are most comfortable around me.
years ago, when I was thin and active.....I dated quite a few girls taller than me, I'm 5'7" ish. I loved the confidence, most had a good sence of humor some even a pulse....lol. The tallest being 6'3", but I have to be honest the pair of us , were well aware of the attention we used to attract. I cant explain why I like tall women , its just been there, it was a standing joke with my pals, "oh look is she long enough for you". I have settled down with a girl who is 5'8.5" who wouldnt be seen dead in flat shoes, and was the tallest in her class until her final year. when everyone flew past her. she knows I like tall women and as said wont wear flat shoes as she says she feels short.
Back to the subject, I think a lot of tall girls have issues being out with shorter men...
Dating a shorter guy is not such a big deal. I'm 6'2 and my bf is 5'8. When I was younger, I was painfully aware of my height, and being around shorter people made me feel awkward...but then I grew up, and realized that there are more important things in life than having a taller bf. In fact, dating a shorter guy kind of boosted my confidence.
i couldn't care less what a guy's height is, i actually would reather date a guy that is short cause short guys are so cute, and also every guy that i've ever know has always been really nice and easy to get along with. i love short guys
I am 6' and I personally dont mind dating shorter guys. IF they are secure in themselves. Some short guys have even asked me if I am a man even though I dont look anything close to a man, but I think their ego gets in the way sometimes and then they make rude comments. So as long as they are man enough to date someone taller...I am woman enough to date someone shorter
Paul was dead right. Tall girls are very stuck up when it comes to height. How does a short guy stand a chance with a tall girl in modern society. Tom Cruise is a good example. Every article you read about him always mentions tiny tom or pint sized Tom. It is alot easier for a short man to approach a short woman than a tall one and thats a fact. Tall women need to change their attitudes
Paul was dead right. Tall girls are very stuck up when it comes to height. How does a short guy stand a chance with a tall girl in modern society. Tom Cruise is a good example. Every article you read about him always mentions tiny tom or pint sized Tom. It is alot easier for a short man to approach a short woman than a tall one and thats a fact. Tall women need to change their attitudes
I'm a shade under 5'5 and in my dating experience, it's the women who have the most issues about a man's height, regardless if they are tall or short themselves.
I would sooner approach a woman that's a few inches taller or many inches taller than myself because the shorter ladies usually look past me in favour of the super tall guys. Short women need that compensation to feel protected, so I've been told by many of them. I have never met a tall woman who felt she needed to date a man taller than herself in order to feel protected or more feminine in the equation. At the same time, it's without question that there are tall women who adamantly refuse to date any man that is shorter than they are, perhaps due to natural preference. This still hasn't hindered me from approaching taller women because the only way to find out if she's interested in you is to simply ask. Learning to deal with rejection is key, especially for a short guy like me. Short guys need to understand that rejection is a part of life and to deal with it accordingly. It's easy to move on to the next woman and attempt to engage her in conversation if your ego doesn't get bruised easily. I do appreciate what the previous Anonymous poster said about being woman enough to date a shorter man. I am more than man enough to date a tall woman but there are less women who have the intestinal fortitude and self-security to date a shorter man.
I've just started seeing someone 5'7 and I'm 6'1! Also, I'm curvy-muscly and he's thin-petite.
Not fair not fair!! However, he makes me laugh so much and I'm so glad I gave him a chance, I haven't met someone I've felt this way about in a long time. I'm so glad he doesn't have 'tall' issues like a lot of other guys I've met.
I am 5'2"
When I was younger (17) a girl who was 5'4" was very interested in me. She also had a girlfriend who was 6'0" whos boyfriend was 5'4"
Problem was
a) her other suitor as 6'0"
b) I felt intimidated by her
c) I felt she would leave me for another taller man.
d) I felt everyone would stare/other men would disrespect me by hitting on her in my presence/etc.
3 years later on the internet I had a good chance with a 5'8" woman - she was in fact going to fly to my country and see me.
7 years later, same, a 5'5" girl wanted me.
All this with being a hermit for much of my adult life.
So overall, I do not know if its more the men or women who have an issue with shorter guys. In my case it was (probably) me (not 100% sure because I would have to pursue it first, which I didnt do).
But I think in general it is the girls who want taller men.
In my case, this has made me so scared (bullying by other males/ignored by females) that when my dream girl comes along - I cant do anything. Though even, hypothetically, if I was not bullied and ignored a lot - I have internal issues with taller women. Sad, because those are the only kind I want.
I'm 6'2, 24 and I've always gone for taller men in the past. I was with one guy who was a bout 6'9 for a while. It was great at the time, I could wear sky high heels round him and reach his hight, in fact I don't wear flat shoes any more apart from trainers.
But shortly after I split up with him, I got friendly with a guy who used to live on my street. He's only just turned 18, totally changed my life around, nicest guy I have ever met and I love him to bits, but he is really short, I think he's around 4'10 i'm not too sure.
Despite the hight difference, we gave it a shot at its great. Plus I still wear my 6 inch heels when I'm with him quite a lot, doesn't bother me, but I think its bothers him abit lol.
The only thing is he can't reach to kiss me, but that not really a big deal to me
I just want to scream HELP where have all the tall men gone some times. Don't get me wrong I don't discriminate when dating if a guy is tall or short but jeez I'm almost 30 and I have never dated a guy that was taller than me. I'm only 6'0. I've dated guys that were A LOT shorter than me and yes they were great guys and no I never held it against then but sometimes its just annoying to have to bend or scrunch down for a kiss or weird that your hands fall at different lengths so holding hands feels more awkward than cute and yummy. I also like the feeling of being hugged from above me. Sorry I know I'm ranting and all my life I haven't held it against a guy. I just want to date one guy that is taller than me for a change...just once. I even stopped wearing heels which I love oh so much because well it just made things more difficult. Sorry I know I'm not being helpful here just frustrated and needed to vent. thanks
I think that the whole dating shorter guys for tall women or short ones for that matter is mostly the issue of feeling protected. Personally I think it is a load of Bull**** because it doesnt matter your height you can either protect your woman or not. But I guess it was ingrained in our heads from birth that shorter guys are powerless even if its not true. Its hard to change peoples opinions, but to those women who can feel comfortable with a man who is 4'10 or 6'10 more power to you!
I am consistently shocked whenever I hear how common it is for men to feel intimidated, emasculated, or uncomfortable in any way with a taller woman. I am a 5'7" (but muscular built) guy and I have always had a very strong natural attraction to women who are taller than me. I have never been able to pin down exactly what it is (I have absolutely no BDSM dominatrix-type fetishes at all), but I do know that there is something irresistible about the way they feel, and there simply being so much of them. :)
The whole phenomenon of women placing so much value on men's height is certainly frustrating for any guy who isn't tall, but I always try to keep in mind that it is simply one of many things that someone can find a turn-on or turn-off in the opposite sex, and I find it hard to accuse anyone of being shallow for simply being attracted to some things and not others. I personally believe in every individual woman it runs a continuum between having had their preferences shaped by socialization, and a genuine instinctive female drive to seek the protected feelings that can come from being with a physically bigger person. Whichever it is, they can't do much to help it.
In my experience, women who are unusually tall (over 6') tend to be less likely to be unwilling to date a shorter guy. I must admit that I wish I understood the whole thing better and were better able to tell whether or not a tall woman would give me a chance, because I have never had a steady relationship with one. Any insider tips would be appreciated. ;)
In any case, I would just like all of you tall women who have had trouble with men being uncomfortable with your height to know that there are indeed good guys out there who are not only completely comfortable with it, but find it a major turn on....I'm one of them!
Nothing wrong with girls liking big tall men if it's for a ligit reason like a lot of us guys on her like big tall women we just do, unfortunately a lot of women are taught to like larger men so they can hide behind them the way a child hides behind a parent and that's where it gets dysfunctional and harmful to all involved. Women are adults, not children to be taken care of and protected like children, people need to face their fears like adults not use their lovers as segregate parents. There's nothing wrong with people helping each other but for one person to be their even in part to avoid adult responsibility only serves to stunt their growth Even worse it helps promote the idea of women as cowardly second class citizens dependent on men to stand up for them at that point, we all loose.
I'm 6'2" and I am dating a guy who is 5'10". It's rough, I'm not going to lie. I always pictured myself with a guy who I had to stand on my tippee toes to kiss, a guy who I could throw my arms around his neck to hug, a guy that I had to look up to...but didn't we all?! It isn't the outside that matters, but because society says that the man should be taller than the woman, we get judged. Love isn't about how tall someone looks like, its about how they treat you and make you feel. I like to think of it like this; the women that judge us tall girls for dating shorter men are just jealous that we have long sexy legs;)
I think it is great that most of the ladies on here feel confident enough to date shorter guys, but in my experience I have found that this is the exception rather than the rule. Maybe it is because I live in the UK and people here like to fit in by conforming to the common rules of society - taller man shorter woman(so stone age!). I personally do not see why it should be a problem but accept that, more often than not, it is. Maybe I should move over to the US where people seem to be a lot more open minded, and are willing to get to know a person before judging. Ultimately though, it is different strokes for different folks, and any intelligent woman knows exactly what she wants (and usually gets it!) All I can say to the non-heightest ladies out there is "good for you, go for it!". And my telephone number is....(joke)
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I personally would never date a guy who was shorter than me. I am 6'3'' and no offense to shorter guys, I just dont like that. I still love them and they are my friends but I would never ever date them.
I'm a 6'5 girl who is currently dating a 5'8 guy and i would not change it for anything to date a guy that is as tall as me or taller. To me height dosent matter its what inside that does, and the important thing is that he accepts me for me. He dosent make fun of me and is not itimidated by me. I thought i would never find a guy that would look past my height and appreciate me for me. I am glad i met him and he means the world to me.
Ever since childhood, I've been attracted to tall women (And I am quite short) I guess everyone is entitled to his or her preferences regarding this matter, nevertheless it can be quite frustrating at times and on worst days I often wonder aloud who made the stuid "Rules"? I guess with me it's just a case of "Opposites Attract", and always has been, but I must dwell in Realityville, and know well that my chances, as Dan Rather famously observed are "Slim, and none, and, Slim has just left town" oh well, so it goes
i am seeing a guy who is almost a head shorter, i enjoy his company but my head already sits forward from my shoulders so looking down at him makes it worse, i wish HE wore heels. And i dont wear any either.
I am under the impression that alot of tall women seem annoyed or put off by a short guy. I am 5'6" tall, and I have always adored taller women. Its really too bad they can't see that, or even give a short guy the slightest chance. We don't bite. Seems like tall women look the other way, or right past a short guy, I mean its like we don't exist. Dating sites for example will ask height preference on their match. Alot of women will specify that they want a guy a certain height, the great majority being taller than they are. I think way too much emphasis is put on such a minor thing as height. I have dated women that are mostly close to my height or shorter, but would love the opportunity to sometime date a girl thats 6'0" or taller. Give some of us shorties a chance. We didn't ask to be short, just like tall people didn't ask to be tall, it just happened that way
Have you noticed the ads on TV where the woman is taller than the man? In most of the teaser ads for programs on Bravo the women are taller than the men in the ad. Also, a recent ad by Walmart shows a wife taller than her husband. (She is sitting at home but they are then shown out dancing and she is clearly taller.)
Does this indicate that couples where the woman is taller than the man are being recognized as more normal and mainstream?
I am a 200 lb. muscular 5'8 male and by that I don't mean 200 lbs of fat but rather Special Forces fit. Lol, so I am pretty big in my own head at the very minimum and here are my thoughts:
1. It goes both ways guys ok. Some dudes no matter how short or tall would never in a million years date a fat chick. I have a buddy who is 5'4 and he is the most judgmental guy I've ever known. So, think of it this way fellas. Would you some of you ever date a fat chick? Well, the same goes for some but NOT ALL females. Some like em tall and some like em all. It is what it is.
2. I have seen plenty of happily married much taller females with much shorter males. They are happily married with lots of kids.
Therefore, anything is possible. Now, where are all these tall beauties at... lol?
I myself am an Asian guy in his mid 20's around 5'7, and have usually kept to dating women slightly shorter than myself, which is relatively easy to do when you generally stick to Asian women.
However, I recently have been enamored with this girl from my past that recently came into my life. She's about 5'10, I get a feeling that it might be an issue for her. As it stands, there's a LOT of obstacles that are challenging if we can be together, and I'm pretty upset that height of all things might be a factor, especially in a scenario where any one thing could be the tipping point.
After a point, certain women need to get over their own insecurities and try to actually see if they could otherwise be happy with that person. Otherwise, who's really the one losing out? The guy? The girl? Both???
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This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the women who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.
One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height
I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence. No doubt, all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s,. I didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier wouldn’t have given me the time of day. And even now, may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young?
I am now married and have 4 sons. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. SO, IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN YOUR LATE 20’S OR EARLY 30’S WITH NO PROSPECT OF A HUSBAND OR CHILDREN, YOU HAVE NO ONE TO BLAME BUT YOURSELF. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate, for there are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Thus, throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a leggy lady.
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